We all know someone who has the habit of procrastinating a lot. We see them fail miserably at completing the task they attempt to start and complete at the eleventh hour. Most of the times it is funny, but it is not funny when our own children procrastinate and suffer for the same? Of course no! A child who tends to procrastinate often could be in for some big-time hardships if he does not change this habit.
Parents can actively take charge of this and help their kids with despite our repeated requests and warnings, if children just do not just get their act together. We need to do more to help them curb their habit. Firstly, we need to understand the cause. It’s not the case that the act of delaying things is always related to laziness or not being motivated enough to do their tasks.
There are a few more things which parents and teachers need to consider before try to help the child with his or her problem:
- Boredom: Most kids need a good reason to be engaged in an activity. They need the task to be fun enough for them to take interest in it.
- Lack of time management skills: A lot of the times, children believe that it’s okay to put things off until the last moment and their work can easily be finished on the last day, but fail to learn the lesson even when things do not go as per their plans.
- Lack of discipline: Kids today, faces a number of distractions and so, it is hard for them to prioritise what is important. They fail to keep up with their plans and end up facing the consequences for the same.
- Fear of failing in their tasks: Some children believes that perfection is unattainable for them and so they think it’s better to not try than try and not succeed.
Once you figure out what is preventing your child from finishing his task in a timely manner, you should probe some more to know what it would take for you and your child to overcome the problem of delaying things.
- Incentives for doing it right: Children whose primary motivation for doing something is some kind of stimulation will benefit from this. If you reward them for starting and completing their work on time, they would be immensely motivated to start on their tasks.
- Talk to them about their fears: Children who are afraid of failure might just be waiting for someone to talk to them about it. Let them know that trying is much more important than succeeding and that if they never tried, they’d never know what they are capable of.
- Divide huge tasks into smaller goals: Children who are overwhelmed by big projects or even exams, often face the problem of not knowing where to start or when to start. Parents must step into the picture and give them smaller and more achievable goals.